I registered an account in an online dating site a few months back. My intention was complicated. I wanted to do a research about why a lot of people are joining such websites. And I wanted to blog about what is really happening inside those sites.

Well, it’s not as simple as what I have imagined it to be. First, I don’t want to upload a picture so nobody is interested in me. Second, I don’t like to initiate conversations so I’m just waiting for someone to contact me. Third, they “walk away” as soon as they find out that I’m not there to find “love.”

Then today, somebody from Netherlands has me a message.

torinawa: you should try and interview some of the datingsite owners and/or admins. This way is more fun of course, but for a blog it will soon become biased rants.

me: thanks for the suggestion. it’s actually difficult to find someone who wants to be interviewed. nobody wants to waste time on me. and yes, it’s going to be biased. i see online dating sites in a bad light. i cringe when a western guy treats these Asian ladies like prostitutes. of course i know there are scammers. but most men i meet here are pervs. anyway, thanks again

torinawa: You can begin your interview now if you like

me: let’s get started

the questions are simple

1. why did you register in DIA?
2. is it true that western men are looking for girls in asia because they are a “garbage” in their own countries? i mean they are losers that western women cannot accept them?
3. do you think that these women are desperate? that they only want to get your money or that they are only using you to get a visa?
4. do you think you can find true love through this online dating thing?

sorry the questions are mean. as i’ve said, i see online dating sites in a bad light. although i believe that it is possible to find true love through websites like this, i still see a lot of western men taking advantage, asking ladies to take off clothes on webcam, saying perv things, etc. yes, they are taking advantage because they know that most of these girls are starving

please take your time in answering these questions

i will be waiting

thanks!

torinawa:

1. I am here to observe and learn. Mostly the operational side of this site.
2. Many are. But about 5% of the men you find on dating sites are really looking for a partner.
3. Hm.. It’s my experience that economic motives play a role.
4. Actually yes. Chances are slim though.

Your questions are not mean.. But biased and so not very helpful in any research about this phenomenon.

me: about 5% LOL. i wonder what the remaining 95% are doing here? anyway, thanks for the honest answers

torinawa: Ow.. the other 95%? Motives are very diverse. But mostly sexual in nature. From pedophiles to sadists, from wankers to men who are in need of a self-image boost.

I forgot the sex-tourists in my last message. I am sleepy now, so I will go to bed. Again, TC and have a nice day.

Just for the record. Try to find something about a similar phenomenon from Ukraine and Ghana. You’ll cry your eyes out when you delve in this rubbish to deep. You’ll never trust another soul online again…

me: thank you so much for your time sir

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I’m crazy. Why am I doing this? Maybe this is going to be the first and the last interview …

First, I’m not so sure if this is going to be an adventure or just another activity that would waste my time. You see, I signed up for an online dating site. Yeah, shame on me! But wait, before you start throwing tomatoes and stones at me, let me clarify that I’m not looking for anything. I’m not bored. I’m not looking for a frog that would turn into a prince charming. I’m not even thinking of meeting my future husband. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing.

To tell the truth, signing up in DIA (dateinasia.com) is the most “eeww” thing that I can do at this age. I turned 28 last August 8 and I feel too old for this thing. So, the question is why? Well, I just think it would be great to blog about my experiences in online dating. I would write about the people I get to meet in DIA. My thoughts about them, my opinion, and basically everything and anything about online dating. It’s going to be an exposé! LOL. I want to reveal what is really happening in the world of online dating.

This is not the first time that I would be joining an online dating site. Which means that I am aware about scams, prostitution, gold diggers, men looking for online sex, and all the evil things that happen online. Please don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that online dating is a bad thing. All I’m saying is “be nice to me.” Or else, I will blog about you! LOL. It’s not a joke. I will really blog about people and I also will upload screenshots of messages. In fact, there are already 13 messages in my inbox.

Want to see my profile? I don’t now if this link will work but here it is: http://www.dateinasia.com/blogger.html

Anyway, I’m not convinced. Maybe this is going to be a waste of time. Maybe I should concentrate on learning new things such as Photoshop and Dreamweaver rather than spending time in online dating. But I also need to update my blog and I think this is the easiest way to do it. Another thing that inspired me to write about meeting a foreign spouse is this post: get your foreign husband online asap. Why are you asking me? I can’t help you

Some people in DIA think that it’s cool and they are already inquiring for my blog’s link! And I’m not even an active member. Let’s see what will happen. Maybe I should upload a photo? I’m actually laughing at my profile. Picture-less and I’m not sure about my height. I think I am taller than 5. I don’t know my weight but I’m skinny.

Guess what? The first message I got says “what kind of a special girl are you?” I couldn’t stop laughing. I felt like a hopia. A special kind of chinese bread with beans and pork flavors. This is going to be fun

Note: All posts regarding online dating will be filed under the category: my online dating adventures. The rest of the posts are irrelevant.